Fw:

I like walking on the outside. I like opening doors and pulling the chair for a girl. Yes, I believe chivalry is not dead but very well alive in a small sect of guys called gentleman (not to be confused with gentiles).

We have an easy battle. We often find ourselves on the battlefield metaphorically fighting against sloppy fratty jock of yesteryear with no sense of personal space or personal hygiene. You'd think it an easy fight.

It's easier for most guys not to make a move. On any given night a guy - and yes I speak solely from my gender's perspective for I write what I know yadiyadiyada - looking for "some" (some might call it hunting) can and will get some. Add liquid courage and be willing to lower your standards enough the possibilities are endless. So why try?

And yes girls will complain that all guys are like that. That we suck. That we have no idea how good a kiss might be if there's more than just raw physical need intertwined in that lip-locking. That all we are looking for is a warm body and willing lips. That it feels awful to go to a party just to have some random but hopefully friendly looking stranger grind up against them.

We know.
There's nothing to it.

I'm not trying to place blame. Far from it. A mon avis, the blame lies mostly on my gender.

In any given social interaction I know I'm expected to make the move. Ask the girl out, place my head just close enough so that she knows I'm going in for the kiss, hold her hand in public, etc. But for once I'd like her to do that instead.

Call me upside down, backward, crazy or whatever appropriately self-deprecating adjective you can attach but feminism happened. Or is happening.

A girl who is forward is often seen as aggressive and domineering. It's also a great aphrodisiac.

I know high strung ambitious women in charge of everything in their life who fall apart over a boy. They want a boy to take control over that part of their life. God bless their hearts they try really hard to be happy. Try is an operative word there.

A guy who likes a girl will move the world to see her. No excuses. Mohammed is the girl and the mountain is us. We will move mountains for the girl we like because in our minds, as cro-magnian as the other gender may see us, we have already determined if there will ever be anything else between us and you.

So be forward. I still think a guy has a right to ask the girl. Stand outside her bedroom window sitting on the hood of your car blasting music from an old boom box. Classic. But girls have that right too.

The next time you hate on us remember.

The male gender is still one of the top two genders on this planet.