Ricco Suave

I love uncomfortable situations. I'm awkward, get flustered on the phone and have the sense of humor of an anvil. Some people might say I'm a charmer.

I want to own a dog named Cat Stevens.

A guy is a charmer when he can hold quasi-intelligent conversation with someone who surpasses him in stature, presence or wit. This basically translates into any girl. Not only must we focus on the eyes but we have to resist every primal instinct we have. The urge to hold the girls face between our hands and give her a kiss. Une petite bise.

And most guys will have a set of stories they like to tell - much like the heartwarming first date story you tell about yourself as a naive young child. "So there I was, 5 years old, my first conscious moment on a plane and I looked out the window and saw the wings. I turned to my mom and with a frown on my face innocently asked when the plane would start flapping its wings". And hopefully youll have a wingman with you.

Being charming is easier when you have your buddy structure in place and Troop 423 of the Eagle Scouts of America makes a representation.

The underlying mantra is simple: she comes first (it's also a best selling book). Make her smile. Make her feel comfortable. Be funny and push the boundaries of the appropriate a la Hank Moody. Going big is high risk and high reward. I like to do what Sorkin wrote about: too big to fail. Given that might just be a genetic accident of faith by which I grew to be a foot taller than my national average AND both of my parents.

Throughout the charming experience the reminder is that the guy threads on dangerous waters. We can end up being the leader of a cargo cult in the islands of southeast Asia with a sequined love nun. We can be left with the awkward silence, lose momentum, say just the wrong thing at just the wrong time.

I don't believe in the game. I don't believe in negs, anchoring or pretending to be too cool for school.

I'm a nerd who loves math, science and business. I'm a 6-6 Mexican with a penchant for operatic singing and alt-rock music. I DO like walks on the beach. I like dates on April 25th because it's not too hot and it's not too hot. I enjoy Tarantino as much as an indie flick about a bright cleaning service (in general, I find that good movies have the word sunshine in them).

If you find a guy who's a "charmer" or a charming guy I can say this: we're not always full of it. There are times when we're being wholeheartedly honest. Because we love women and the effect they have on the electric impulses coursing through our synapses (what little we have left after years of evolutionary self-destruction). Believe in him.

He'll get in touch.